The Backstory & Book: How was UniGirlOlogist developed?
UniGirlOlogist started with a book that was written and illustrated by our 9-year-old daughter after we told her to write down her feelings and tell her story.
At the time, we did not know that she would write a self-help book highlighting the hard themes that happen at school. As parents, we expect these themes to happen in middle school and later. Why is this happening to younger generations? There are a myriad of researchers evaluating this right now and there are many layers to why this is happening.
Our daughter came home every single day talking about difficult themes that happened at school and when our feedback was not helping her, her symptoms became worse. She cried a lot, this affected her sleep dramatically, complained of severe stomachaches, headaches, and started biting her nails a lot. She is very intelligent, so she learned quickly that our feedback was not working.
What did work? When she wrote and drew her internal feelings, we witnessed a big change in her and she described feeling better. We were so proud of her to develop themes for a group to share with other girls to help them find their voice and not hide what bothers them. She was ecstatic to create a group to help others talk about these hard experiences. She loves building and is incredibly creative, so making crafts and talking about how to help girls find their magic was so encouraging to her because she felt validated and not alone in this process.
The main theme of her book and groups was to “not lose your smile.” Something changed in her when she was able to teach others, and it resonated at a level that changed her. Anxiety is multi-layered and how it appears for one child is not the same for another. That is why this book and groups are a conversation starter. You can tell a child these strategies, but there is a change when they teach it to others.
The Book: The Truths About Being A Girl in This Big World
"From a clinical perspective and as her mommy, I witnessed an amazing change where she was able to create a safe space and talk about how we can’t control others, but we can control how to OWN our magic."